Stuck in the Same Patterns? How to Work with Your Subconscious Instead of Fighting It
If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “Why do I keep doing this?” or “Why can’t I just change this pattern?” Then this episode is for you.
Because the truth is, most of us aren’t stuck because we’re broken. We’re stuck because we’re trying to change at the level of the conscious mind… while the real drivers of our behavior live somewhere deeper.
In this conversation, I’m joined by clinical hypnotherapist, counseling psychologist, and coach Christine Brodmerkel. Christine helps people understand and work with the subconscious patterns that quietly shape how we think, feel, and respond, often without us even realizing it.
We talk about why insight alone doesn’t create lasting change, how long-held patterns can actually be updated, and what it really looks like to work with your subconscious instead of fighting against it.
One of the most powerful parts of this conversation is the idea that many of us are unknowingly operating from a subtle internal question: “Is it safe?”
And that question can influence everything from our relationships to our confidence, to the risks we’re willing to take.
This episode is a grounded, thoughtful look at what real change actually requires and why it’s possible, even if you’ve been carrying the same patterns for years.
In this episode, we explore:
- Why you keep repeating patterns even when you’re aware of them
- The difference between thinking your way out vs. working with the subconscious
- How neuroplasticity supports real, lasting change
- The subtle ways the question “Is it safe?” shapes your life
- What hypnotherapy actually does (and what it doesn’t)
- How to begin shifting patterns that feel deeply ingrained
If you’ve been doing the work but still feel stuck, this conversation might give you a completely different way to understand what’s going on—and what’s actually possible.
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